I find the hardest thing I have had to deal with during my life...whether it was back in my MLC season or now is my realization that as much as I or other people say they like change or want it...or even know that it is a constant...human beings don't like change at all...we actually prefer our comfort zones where there is no change and the constant IS the fact that it stays the same. We struggle most when we resist change even more than we normally do AND as we get older we tend to resist it more and more because it is the reality of life that we TRULY DO NOT have control over our lives.
Life...death...comings and goings...happiness and sadness, love and hate are going to happen! It is a part of the Mid-life journey that makes us learn to appreciate what we have already and learn to be grateful for it....it moves us from the season of learning and making mistakes into a season of wisdom and gratitude.
Those who fight it...resist it...put their heads in the sand...go in to denial or try to recreate their past...They are only delaying the inevitable...despite the resistance and the hard work to maintain normal...the change is occurring...it IS a constant....it is the lesson of acceptance....OR learning how to swim with the riptide instead of fighting it ...or even better...learning how to surf the waves of life, instead of letting them knock us down.
I have gotten tired of letting them knock me down. I am exhausted from fighting the riptide. I have decided to learn how to surf the waves instead...
How about you?!!
Sorry...I got a bit philosophical there...I have been dealing with change, resisting and allowing it lately also...my oldest left to start her life in a new job in Wilmington, NC...both she and I were fighting it...but whether we liked it or not, life kept coming...she is there, and enjoying it after a few rough starts...I am learning to surf this wave...I pray that she is too! I would hate for her not to learn from her stubborn old mother and have to learn this lesson at 50.
PS - I have also learned that Letting go and just being an observer of the wave is a good thing too...but that is another blog post for another day