Handling Anger in a Healthy Way
Uncontrolled anger can destroy your marriage! Dr.
All of us get angry when we feel that we have been wronged. Feeling angry is not sinful, but how you respond may be. In Ephesians 4:26 we read: "Being angry, sin not, don't let the sun go down on your anger." We are responsible for controlling our behavior. The husband or wife who lashes out in anger with harsh words or hurtful behavior is sinning.
The first step in learning to control your anger is to restrain your immediate response. Count to 100 before you do anything. Take a walk around the block. Go water your flowers. Do something to stop the flow of hurtful words or abusive behavior. Take a "time out" and you're less likely to sin.
Many marriages have been destroyed by uncontrolled anger. The feeling of anger is not sinful. Even God feels anger. Great social reforms have been motivated by anger. But uncontrolled anger has destroyed the lives of thousands. If you feel angry, admit it, and ask God to help you take positive action.
One constructive step is to ask: Am I angry because someone sinned against me? Or, because I did not get what I wanted? If someone sinned, you should be angry. That is godly anger. However, much of our anger is distorted - things simply did not go our way. If this is the case, we need to confess our selfish response, accept God's forgiveness and release our anger to Him.
If someone sins against us, it's natural to get angry!
Even God get's angry when people sin. He moves out in love to convict, discipline, and correct. Should we do less?